“There’s something I need to talk to you about”

You know when someone says “there’s something I need to talk to you about” – even worse if you get it on a text.  If it is a boyfriend, you are freaking out “Is he going to dump me, did he cheat on my, is he leaving me , what did i do – have i done something wrong?” Your body kind of goes in “fight or flight” mode. Its the same as when someone says “there’s a question I’ve been meaning to ask you.” Your heart kind of  skip a beat, the adrenaline and the kind of fear you suddenly feel, sometimes you even get goosebumps. “What did I do now?” And then when your girlfriends say it, you get surprised  and of course afraid that something bad happen. But why are we always associating those sentences with bad things.

How many times haven’t you hurt those phrases when you were younger and growing up, when you did something that crossed the line. But when you get older you might have had a bad memory with that “There’s something I need to talk to you about” phrase. My bad memory started when i found out my dad had cancer .. and then when my parents were getting a divorce. So now for me that phrase is almost guaranteed to go badly and sometimes be extremely painful.

But sometimes it can also turn out to be a good phrase. A good phrase when one of your friends desperately have been wanted to tell you something. Something that makes them blush, talk fast, giggle and the best part when you can se, that they are actually so happy. There is nothing better than to see the people close to you being happy – even best of all being in love.

Cassandra Borg Schumann